I sent that in a tweet about half an hour ago. It really does amaze me that the more I seem to learn about life, the more I realise there is to learn.
I can safely say that over the past 2 years I have learnt lessons that will stay with me forever. I have had a complete turn around in how I see life, relationships, people, and myself.
When I have looked back over the past 30-something years, I have been able to identify moments that formed who I was before I was "taken ill". I have been able to acknowledge thoughts and processes that were deeply ingrained in me, and that were causing me more destruction than good. As I started to unpick such things I was initially terrified about the idea I had wasted so much of my life, and I been wrong about so many things.
I had two choices - carry on as I was., which would one day end up with an 80 year old me still carrying concerns about things that had happened decades before; or accept that while I am the same person, I am also a very different person. Let's face it, over time we do change. We make different choices, based on where we are at the time, what we know, and of course past (possibly incorrect) decisions.
It is very easy to beat ourselves up over choices we have made, but at some point we need to draw the line between "should have known better" and "now I do know better".
I am now trying to follow my heart and make decisions based on what I feel is right. It isn't always easy and it isn't always possible, but giving myself permission to possibly make a mistake has been incredibly liberating.
So go ahead, make a decision. Trust that it will be ok, give yourself permission to try and find out, oh - and do let me know how it goes.
Lots of love
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