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29/1/2016

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"Life is an enigma"

I sent that in a tweet about half an hour ago. It really does amaze me that the more I seem to learn about life, the more I realise there is to learn.

I can safely say that over the past 2 years I have learnt lessons that will stay with me forever.  I have had a complete turn around in how I see life, relationships, people, and myself. 

When I have looked back over the past 30-something years, I have been able to identify moments that formed who I was before I was "taken ill".  I have been able to acknowledge thoughts and processes that were deeply ingrained in me, and that were causing me more destruction than good. As I started to unpick such things I was initially terrified about the idea I had wasted so much of my life, and I been wrong about so many things.

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As time passed, (and with the help of medication, therapy and a LOT of support) I have been able to accept that these things/ways/thoughts/processes were what they were. They had happened. I couldn't change the past.  They weren't happening in the present (let's be fair, not much was happening in the present when I was housebound and unable to communicate with other human beings) yet I still associated them with the present me. 


I had two choices - carry on as I was., which would one day end up with an 80 year old me still carrying concerns about things that had happened decades before; or accept that while I am the same person, I am also a very different person.  Let's face it, over time we do change. We make different choices, based on where we are at the time, what we know, and of course past (possibly incorrect) decisions.  


It is very easy to beat ourselves up over choices we have made, but at some point we need to draw the line between "should have known better" and "now I do know better". 
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When suffering with anxiety it becomes natural to second guess (and third guess, and forth guess) decisions we have made.  It is easy to imagine every possible scenario that would have been preferable to one we find ourselves in, and it can make us seize up - terrified of doing anything for fear that it will be wrong.


I am now trying to follow my heart and make decisions based on what I feel is right.  It isn't always easy and it isn't always possible, but giving myself permission to possibly make a mistake has been incredibly liberating. 

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​​So go ahead, make a decision. Trust that it will be ok, give yourself permission to try and find out, oh - and do let me know how it goes. 


Lots of love 
Bu xx 
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BuBakes is committed to reducing the stigma attached to Mental Health, and personally donates 25p for every order received to MIND.  This is kindly matched by two generous supporters, meaning a £1 donation is made per order.  If you would like to find out more about MIND, or make a donation you can do so here. 
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Guest Post - What actually is strength?

18/1/2016

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Many thanks to Emily Knight for her contribution to my guest blog series about what being strong means to others.

Award winning food blogger, founder and general Wonder Woman at Bristol Bites (@BristolBites) and editor of The Food Lover West Country Magazine; Emily spends the vast majority of her time conveying information to others.  Emily has a knack for engaging with others and I didn't think twice about asking her for her opinions on what makes people strong. 
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I am lucky enough to know Emily from my school days, and was incredibly fortunate that Emily was able to give me  advice and support when my mental health challenges were first diagnosed (and she has done ever since). 

Happy reading! 
Bu xx 

“Strength” is a funny word: it can have all sorts of meanings depending on how it’s used.

It could refer to physical power, or to an object’s ability to stay still and unbroken when subjected to force.  When I think about psychological “strength”, it’s more about dealing with problems: having a quality that allows you to handle the bad times in an effective way.


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Not all of us have a great deal of strength – I certainly don’t at times. My anxiety made finding strength an even tougher challenge: I gave in to what my brain was telling me, I convinced myself that I couldn’t cope…and as a result, I was signed off work for 6 months and barely saw my friends in that period.


Now, though, things are different. CBT helped me to realise that the anxiety was eating away at my strength, convincing me that I was weak when that wasn’t actually the case. I’ve now completely retrained my brain, and my anxiety no longer dominates everything I do.

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​My newly-found strength really does help me to deal with problems: to look at issues logically and find the best solutions. To realise when the way I’m feeling is caused by anxiety, and to face that anxiety head on. And when I’m having a bit of a wobble, and feeling like mustering that strength is far too difficult, I remember what life was like when I was signed off work and realise that I never want to go back there again.

Strength is all about identifying your weaknesses and tackling them head-on, rather than letting them get the better of you. Your brain may be telling you that it sounds far too difficult and you should just carry on as normal – but don’t let it win…
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Pop over and say hi to Emily on Twitter or Facebook
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