One of the loveliest ways to develop this connection is to create joy for yourself. Yes, it can feel indulgent and various clunky thoughts can occur that make us want to resist the idea. We feel guilt, we wonder if we’re being selfish - that little voice in our brain starts to challenge who we think we are, daring to explore what makes us happy without anyone else in mind.
We’ll touch on those challenging aspects over the next week, but for today I just want you to think about lovely, warm fuzzy feelings. What makes you happy?
It’s time to discover what fills you up…
I’m not talking about the everyday nice stuff, I’m talking about finding something that makes your cheeks ache from grinning. Something that you think about and you physically feel your heart lift. That thing that when you experience it, you truly believe “life’s really alright you know… this is what it’s all about”.
If you have no idea what creates this feeling within you, then you have the best adventure of them all - you get to explore!
Not sure how?
- Reflecting on your day is a great place to start
Just spending a couple of minutes each evening to consider what lifted you throughout the day, may give you an inkling of the area in which you can find your joy. Noting down a few things that made you smile each day will not only allow you to see patterns, but it will also encourage you to do more of that good stuff.
- Be honest, go on, admit what it is that you would LOVE to try…
Most of us have something that we think about and an “I wish” comes into our minds. Whenever I used to watch Strictly, I would get a real kick out of seeing how happy it made people. I’d get shivers, and I put this down to me enjoying watching it. This year, Mr. BuBakes and I decided to try something new and so we joined a beginner’s dance class. Now every Thursday evening my cheeks ache from grinning from start to finish. I may not be overly talented at it, but dancing fills me up.
What’s that thing that you would love to try if you could remove any self-doubt about your ability, or concerns that you “left it too late”?
- Get inspired
Ask people what lights them up, find out what it feels like for them to be lost in something that brings them joy. Not only will this encourage you to keep trying new things until you discover your own elixir of life, but they may just mention something that makes you feel that it could be the thing for you.
- Above all, play with this. It’s fun!
Channel your inner child, that young mind that didn’t know everything and would try things purely because they were there to try. Don’t assume that you have to have the answers, or that it’s too late in life to do this exploration. After all, you are never again going to be as young as you are today.
One warning though, happiness breeds happiness… An amazing thing is that within ourselves we truly do reap what we sow. If we have moments of pure joy this will ripple into other areas of our life. We want more of the amazing feelings it brings and without realising it we will seek the good in more places around us. Life may start to become that little bit more rosy, so be prepared to start smiling at things you’d never really noticed before.
Do you know what really brings you joy? Pure joy, just for you? If so, do let us know in the comments below. It would be great to share ideas, and you never know who may get some inspiration from your experience.
Until next time,
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Mr. BuBakes (My AMAZING husband!) is also running the London Marathon this year to raise even more pennies for MIND. Find out more here.